Your kids, no matter what age, are going to struggle with the new change in their life following the divorce of their parents. Even if it will be better for them in the future, your divorce will be a hard transition. It is important to remind them that they have rights and responsibilities throughout this process.
You can print out the tips featured on this page and tape it to your kids' door as a reminder to them.
The child's rights and responsibilities in divorce:
- You have the right to feel the way you do about the divorce – there is no such thing as 'good' or 'bad' emotions
- You should express their feelings calmly and respectfully
- You should ask as many questions as you need to understand what is happening between your parents during the divorce
- Remember that you are loved by both of your parents
- Remember to love both of your parents because this transition is hard on them too
- You can always talk to someone if you need to – other relatives, teachers, coaches, and your friends
- You do not need to choose a side
- You do not have to be the messenger between them
- You do not have to listen to bad things being said by and about your parents
It is your parent's’ responsibility during and after divorce to:
- Take care of you and keep you safe
- Let you spend time with both parents
- Listen to what you say even if they can’t fix it for you
- Talk with respect to each other while in front of you
- Communicate with one another about things that involve you
Go to this page about online divorce to learn more.