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Divorce Advice For Co-Parents Who Want A Happy Halloween


Who is taking the kids trick-or-treating this Halloween? Whether you're divorced or married, not every parent is equipped to parade through festively frightening streets and imbue candy seeking with excitement. Whether you all love Halloween and went trick-or-treating as a family or you assigned the task with a game of rock-paper-scissors, here’s some divorce advice you can use this October. We’ll keep this article up here so you can use the suggestions for other holidays, too!

"Less Important" Custody Dates Matter In Divorce Decisions

It's common for couples to create plans for major holidays that involve a vacation from school for instance, but sometimes smaller events such as Halloween can be left out of custody agreements. If a specific date during the year has always been a big deal for your kids, that's probably not going to change just because you're divorced, and planning ahead can help your children enjoy the holiday even though things at home have changed. When you put yourself in charge of your own divorce with online tools such as It's Over Easy, you make it possible to concentrate on the decisions that really matter for your family — and that might include a plan for Halloween.

Work Together On A Common-Sense Approach

There are lots of ways to enjoy the holidays, and planning ahead where your children will spend them is important.  There's a lot of divorce advice online, but we want to reduce the chatter and have created a variety of custody calendar templates on It's Over Easy that you can select, or come up with your own that you can plug into the calendar on the site to see what potential “my house” and “their house” schedules might look like for holidays and regular days.

If you were able to agree and get through the divorce process together, you and your ex can manage a night of costumes and candy. Here is some other key divorce advice and suggestions for enjoying Halloween as co-parents who no longer co-habitate to consider:

  • Trading every other season so that each parent gets a chance to go trick-or-treating with the kids
  • Going together (but only if you can be friendly and civil and not make the night tense and uncomfortable for everyone)
  • Splitting up activities, with one parent taking the kids to a costume contest or school festival and the other taking them trick-or-treating
  • Working with the kids to create new traditions that allow everyone to participate, such as trick-or-treating with the parent who has custody that evening and planning a different Halloween activity at the other parent's home on their day or evening