My co-parent and I had no idea when we started sharing joint custody with our son who turned 5 and our daughter 7 ½ that we were on the cusp of a major societal shift back then.
At the time, it was unusual for fathers to request and receive a 50-50 time split. The usual ‘Freeman Order,’ ironically named after a judge in Los Angeles who routinely gave fathers alternating Saturday overnight to Sunday afternoon and every Wednesday dinner, simply would not cut it.
Fully involved with feeding, changing diapers and clothing, putting the kids down to sleep, being there to play when they woke...
If you’re preparing for divorce, you might be reluctant to seek outside input. After all, a troubled marriage can be a deeply isolating experience--and every unhappy marriage is unhappy in its own unique way. No matter why you’re seeking a divorce or how certain you are of your decision, it’s wise to learn from people who have been there, who have studied the topic, and who know how to thrive in the face of life’s challenges.
Without question, one of the biggest hurdles in a divorce is how to deal with shared custody.
In many post-dissolution relationships, custody disputes are the gifts that just keep giving. And it’s not so much about physical custody or shared time, but, rather, the issues incident to legal custody: your children’s health, welfare, academics and the general topics that are sometimes tough to deal with, even when the parents are on the same page and under the same roof.
When parents split up, there are often shifts in thinking, with regard to many of the tacit agreements made during...