Written by Katie Lynch of Apiary Consulting
1. Save Time
Whether you are the homemaker or the rainmaker, time is hard to come by in this day and age, especially if you are used to the pace of a city like New York or LA. One of the biggest misconceptions going into a divorce is that your attorney deals with everything. Wrong.
You will need to work hard to prepare for, complete, and implement your divorce. If you are a professional, you should be aware that the average lost working time during a divorce is 168 hours or four working weeks! You need to consider how much your time is worth, and whether you would be better off saving that time, and paying for someone else to help carry the administrative burden of your divorce. The last thing you want to deal with right now is a reduction in your work performance. A consultant and/or concierge service can complete most non-legal tasks for you at a fraction of the cost of your attorney.
2. Become More Knowledgeable
Divorce is difficult to navigate, and it’s even harder without support. A consultant can guide you through all of the options available to you so that you can make informed decisions that will save you time and money. There is no question that being connected at the outset to the right process and professionals can save you tens of thousands of dollars. You need to know what process best matches your particular set of circumstances because everyone’s divorce is different. Whether that is the It’s Over Easy do-it-yourself model, a mediated, collaborative, or negotiated approach, or a contested legal battle (let’s hope it’s not this!), you need to know what shoe fits you best, and who are the best people to help you see it through. Going straight to an attorney is not always the best approach and, moreover, a lot can be done before you get to that point to ensure that you have all your ducks neatly in a row.
3. Save Money
Divorce is expensive and when two households are divided, more often than not, there is a corresponding drop in the standard of your living. You need to ensure that more of your money is not unnecessarily lost during the process. Using a consultant to help you identify the right process, guide you through it, and help you avoid the many pitfalls along the way, can save you thousands of dollars. Having an accessible sounding board and strategic thinking partner allows you to focus on the bigger picture and not spend unnecessary time, energy, and money fighting over the small stuff. Attorneys themselves often admit that they are the only ones that benefit from a litigated divorce. And, if there are children involved, you must try to focus on protecting their financial future as well.
4. Minimize Stress
Having a dedicated person to help you carry the burden of your divorce can be imperative for your health and wellbeing. There are also resources like the It’s Over Easy Index that provide a cache of amazing resources to help simplify your life and support you throughout the divorce process and beyond. For example: moving. I think we can all agree that there are few things more stressful than having to move. And when you are going through a divorce, there is so much more to organize as you consider all of the challenges involved in dividing one household into two. On top of everything else, if you have children to consider, the logistics are even more significant. And the mental health and wellbeing of your children must be your absolute priority. Having a dedicated personal assistant in the form of a consultant or concierge who has a trusted referral network can help lighten your load, and ensure the transition to your next chapter is as smooth as possible for everyone.
5. Gain a Confidant
Often, it is only an independent party who can help you take the emotion out of your communications. Just one tense conversation between you and your soon-to-be-ex can raise the temperature between you, and knock your divorce significantly off course. You cannot avoid communicating with your spouse at this time, especially if there are children involved, so having a separate set of eyes considering and guiding these communications can make all the difference. And sometimes you will just need to vent! You need someone who is available at your convenience, and it’s often wise (and more cost effective) if that person is not your attorney.
Katie Lynch, Founder, Apiary Consulting
Relationship breakdown is one of life’s most stressful events. Apiary Consulting is a bespoke support and concierge service for individuals dealing with relationship breakdown. Our consultants (all former matrimonial attorneys) provide bespoke one-on-one support to relieve the burden and allow space and time for clarity of thought. We are our clients’ sounding board, strategic thinking partner, and personal assistant. We want to ensure that our clients feel in control and able to make the best decisions for themselves and for their wider family, at all times.